This phrase and "You should come to my house for tea once" and "We should catch up sometime" were told to me by friends. Each time it was a shock, albeit a minor shock, when I heard it.
I would wonder why my friends used the word ONCE or SOMETIME? Why didn't they say NOW or TOMORROW - give a specific date?
That's what I would have done.
That's what I would have done.
Maybe they didn't want to commit. Maybe they liked saying it without the obligation to fulfill it - like buying options in the stock market.
Maybe they were afraid I would land up at their house the very next day or that I would expect them to explain to me immediately. Is it classic P (as in MBTI) behavior?
They wanted to keep their options open even if it was at the expense of others.
They wanted to keep their options open even if it was at the expense of others.
But my reaction to these phrases each time was distaste.
If you didn't want to commit to something, why say it? What if I told you I SHOULD GET MARRIED TO YOU SOMEDAY? Really romantic, huh?
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