Complex Emotions

Acquired or complex emotions are different from simple emotions such as anger, pain, happiness which are present even in toddlers and in animals. These simple emotions are not learnt. 

Complex emotions are interesting. Lot of things happen because of it.  Most of our major initiatives, good and bad, happen because of complex emotions. Complex emotions may be better developed in P type and F type people  (as in MBTI) people. 

Complex emotions cause motivation, sensitivity, sacrifice, empathy, condescension, focus on (creating the right) image, white collar crime, blackmail, Dark Triad (Psychpathic / Machiavellian / Narcissistic behaviour) etc. 

Insensitivity can be the result of T behaviour (because it doesn't think of how someone might feel) or of J behaviour (because it's too busy following rules to think of feelings) or of a F / P because they are too busy focusing on their own goals.

The complex behaviour needs the N (as in MBTI) trait to grow. 

When a high energy combines with complex behaviour then these behaviours are intensely exhibited.

The greater the N, the higher the person is likely to focus on reaching the top of Maslow's pyramid. Reaching the top isn't always good or bad. People with high level of complex emotions may include Donald Trump, Adolf Hitler, Robert Clive, Mother Theresa, Mahatma Gandhi - an assorted bunch as we can see. 

The diametric opposite of an NFP is an STJ. The latter (especially one with low energy) will be a very simple soul compared to the former - not necessarily a better soul but simpler.

Take 3 Buses To Arrive At Work

An interesting conversation happened with my maid today. She was supposed to come at 8AM (that's her shift timing) and she has to come despite it being Christmas today. She came 20 minutes late. I called her in panic at 8:20 and she said she was just reaching my place. When she reached what happened, why she was late. She told me a little irritatedly that she had to change 3 buses and finally she had to hire an auto. This should be read in light of the fact that I had suggested she leave half an earlier last night, which she did. 

In her response, there was no apology. She didn't say it was Christmas day and hence buses were infrequent and hence she got delayed and that it won't likely happen tomorrow or any other normal day. Her response basically talked about her issue (she had to spend more for the auto), her inconvenience (had to take 3 buses) and the indication being these issues are outside of her control and the inference being that what happened could very well repeat any other day. 

The question of the shift time and adherence to it was hardly relevant in light of her issues.

She is probably 20 years old. I realised that by this age she has learned to respond emotionally, (but without anger) and unprofessionally. Unprofessional because there were no qualms about being late. Emotional because the entire thought process were about HER personal issues which were not relevant to her work here. A true P (as in MBTI)!

Recipe - Egg Fried Rice

Steps in reverse chronological order. This is Tukun's recipe. I haven't made it yet.

Spring onion. 

Garnish with spring onion greens. Voila!! Done.

Add salt while mixing and fry it. Medium flame. Not to over cook and make the veggies mushy. Once the amount of vegetables reduces, add soya sauce and vinegar. Keep the salt low in veggies bcos salt is there in eggs and soya sauce as well.

Cabbage capsicum peas carrots

Once raw smell of onions and garlic is gone ...add the veggies

Fri onions, garlic and green chilli

Boiled rice ready

Prepare the egg first