When Do We Stop Being A Chocolate

I had earlier defined how we can be loved - as a child or as a chocolate: http://vbala99.blogspot.com/2017/02/understanding-love.html

Briefly, being loved as a child refers to how a mother loves her child and protects it. Being loved as a chocolate refers to how a woman loves chocolate and consumes it.

Is it ok if we are seen as a chocolate more than 80% of the time by people around us? 

What if we are seen as a chocolate by an adult 80% of the time?

Is this ok? 

I guess it's ok because we feel wanted and keeps our energy channeled to being a chocolate. We also desire being a chocolate. So this is a win-win for both parties. But what happens when we don't want to be a chocolate any more?

More importantly, what event triggers our desire to stop being a chocolate?

Either it's because we realize we are entitled to being a child too and being treated as one and hence want to be one. Or our ego is somehow deeply hurt by a person for whom we were a chocolate. And we hence decide we won't be a chocolate any more for that person. Maybe for others too.

It creates a huge change in our lives and in the life of the person to whom we have decided to stop being a chocolate. In the other person, there is a shock - he doesn't get Chocolate any more and wonders what happened to us. And and waits for us to start behaving normally again.

Only we understand that we wasted ourselves. And a sweet part of us is gone forever. Castrated or amputated as it were.

Who created the problem? That we gave chocolate freely? Or that someone helped himself to chocolate freely?

Note: For clarity, I have mentioned the chocolate donor as the first person and the recipient as a male. It could very well be that the recipient was a female and the recipient was the first person or any other combination. Both parties need not be of the same gender and they need not be having any romantic relationship.