Remember Your Mother

A friend forwarded me this.

To all the Mums 😘

When a mother says she's tired, that's all she meant! 

She did not say she wants to drop her son or daughter and forget that he or she exists.

When a mother says she wanted some time alone, just her, that's all she meant! 

She didn't say she's sorry to be a mother and that motherhood was a mistake in her life.

When a mother says she needs help to get things done, that's exactly what she meant!

She is not saying that she is incapable. 

When a mother makes noodles for dinner, it does not mean she does noodles every day of the week and that her son/daughter is a child who does not know vegetables and meats. 

When you arrive at a mother's house and face disorganization, it doesn't mean that every day that house is disorganized.

When a mother says she'd love to go out with her friends, that's all she meant! She doesn't want to go back to being "Single / not a mother" and like it as if she had no responsibility. 

When a mother says she's worried and afraid, that's what she meant! She didn't say she's going to falter, and much less she's a coward.

When you listen to a mother screaming, it doesn't mean she just screams, probably she has spoken 300 times with normal voice tone. 

When you see a nervous mother, on the edge of madness, doesn't mean every day she's in that situation. 

There is a whole context, a whole situation.

Do not invent untruths to judge someone, let alone a woman who every day, at all times, gives up her own life to live the life of another being that she knows is much more important than her. 

In the world there is no human being able to give up and donate as much as a mother!

And they deserve a lot of understanding and fewer trials. ✍💖

I wondered.

Has anyone ever written not to judge a man who is unkempt, drunk, violent. And that it might be just that day that he was so. 

Not to judge him for being arrogant and that he gives sweat blood and tears for his family. (Remember most wives are home bound in India, whatever be the reason.)

Not to judge a man for not keeping a good house because he spends his time making money and doesn't understand aesthetics.

Not to judge a man's anger because, unlike women, he hasn't learnt to express pain in a better and socially acceptable way.

Ever heard anyone, man or woman, write things like this and circulate?

I have mentioned thatI I rarely hear a wife strongly saying anything positive about her  husband's contribution.
(https://vbala99.blogspot.com/2019/01/my-husband.html)

Women are starting to look like Trump.

In this context, I would like to mention a woman who loved her step daughter so much that the daughter loved the step mom much more than she loved her own father. The step mom and father never had any children of their own. This story was told to me by none other than the daughter herself. And I have had no reason to disbelieve it. 

Such (step) moms exist too. They may not be the norm. 

Talking about norm (as a generalisation) is fine so long as it's kept in mind that a generalisation doesn't apply to every individual.

Talking about an exception is fine just to show how exceptions behave. 

But my friend's post was not a statement of facts. It was more of a commercial with little intrinsic value. One could write similar stuff about other groups like husbands, dogs, criminals etc. 

Additional Reading:

1. https://vbala99.blogspot.com/2019/01/rita-and-sheila.html
2. https://vbala99.blogspot.com/2019/01/family-tv-serials.html