Oh Oh, What Have I Created

Ability to deal successfully with various kinds of people is a very important attribute in a person.

Some people score 1/5 in that. This is their biggest weakness.

They don't have soft skills to deal with most people. 

They expect people to understand things logically, have integrity, put in effort. They do not like people who think their emotions and pain as a useful contribution or as justification for non performance or to be the raison d'etre for doing unimportant things.

God might look at such a person and think "oh oh, poor fellow. What have I created?"

Smart Expense Analysis

Recently I went to get my bike serviced at the authorized service center. The bike is more than 10 years old and I was thinking of exchanging it for a new one. I was told the servicing would cost Rs 2000 to Rs2500. I asked the service engineer how much I would get for my bike. The guy told me that my bike would fetch Rs5000 approximately. I thought. What sense did it make to spend Rs 2000+ on servicing my bike whose value was Rs 5000? Here was an interesting question. The cost of a new bike was Rs 60,000. And my bike was in good condition. If I got it serviced, I was sure I could use it for at least one more year easily without problem. Why incur cash outflow of Rs 60k and incur about Rs 5k depreciation for the current year (=(60-5)/12) assuming straight line depreciation and 12 years life and scrap value of Rs5k) for new bike when I could service it for Rs 2500 and no cash outflow. So I got it serviced. I will worry about a new bike next. Sometimes, what seems at face value may not be right!

Cementing A Relationship

Many women suggest or insist that rapists should have their private parts castrated. 

I agree if the rapist is like the Nirbhaya ones.

I have another suggestion. Females who falsely accuse a man of raping should have their private part cemented. Example would be the female alleged rape victim in the movie Section 375. My friends ARU and TKN agree with me.

J And P (As In MBTI)

Having seen and been with J and P type people I thought i would write my thoughts about them.

P type people are open, interested in new things, they have more width than depth in subjects. J type people are the opposite. When confronted with a new thing, a P (type person) would want to toy with it and it experience it forgetting that they have other commitments and that indulging in the new thing would conflict with the prior commitments. This need for immediate gratification is overwhelming. The stronger their energy levels, the greater the need.

The J usually would strive for depth and is committed to what is in their plate. They hate to take up new things on the fly, they are not open.

As a result, one cannot plan for things with a P because they often don't follow through with what they commit. One cannot plan with a J, on the other hand, because they often may not consider anything out of the beaten path.

As I mentioned earlier, a J is generally, not open to new stuff. When their energy levels go up, the SJ, as an exception, will consider a new S, but not N, experience. The high energy NJ would consider a new N, but not S, experience. 

Note:

1. In all the assertions, we should prefix the word "largely".
2. J is a person who is methodical, planned.
3. P is a person who is more ad-hoc
4. N is a person who has imagination.
5. S is a person who goes by memory and can't imagine.

Additional reading:

"This kind of approach — being openly meditative about the issue at hand, with a penchant for missing his own deadlines as he mulls his options — is in line with how Mr. Biden has made other big political choices throughout his career. Those who have worked with him over the years describe nonlinear decision-making processes with input from allies and family members, a barrage of questions from Mr. Biden, and a habit of extending deadlines in a way that leaves some Democrats anxious and annoyed, while others say it brings him to a well-considered decision, eventually.." From Why Joe Biden Keeps Missing His Own V.P. Deadlines

Putting A Diaper

Place an underpad. And then the diaper as shown below. The head will be to the left and feet to the right.

Placing the patient on the diaper is the difficult step. Put the pillow below the diaper to move the person to the left (or right) as needed.

 

The portion below the hips is folded up and the portion to the left is placed on top and stuck. See the two stickers below. 

Then the piece on the right is stuck on top of the left piece.

Self Destructive Behavior (SDB)

SDB is not just about cutting yourself up. Indulgence in extreme sports, indulgence in narcotics, indulgence in fatty and spicy food also constitute SDB, in the sense that what you crave isn't good for you.

Extreme generosity, like what Karna had, is also an example of SDB. When we are generous way beyond our means or when we love to take high amounts of stress which we know our body cannot manage we are indulging in SDB.

When we are addicted to behavioral patterns that would ultimately ruin us we can say that we have SDB.

When a very touchy person, who hates to be disrespected, acts as a simpleton and hence subconsciously encourages people to disrespect him - he is also indulging in a weird, inexplicable SDB behavior. SDB comes in various flavors.

How healthy or productive can our life be when half the time what we do is something that hurts US? It's like swimming upstream. 

Even sensible people indulge in such SDB. I guess our reward seeking system or hormones in some of us is so strong that we look at immediate thrill without looking at the long term hurt that we cause ourselves.

How do we stop this? How does it feel when a near and dear person indulges in such behaviour?