Self Esteem And Wisdom

Self esteem is about knowing how good you are despite adverse feedback. 

Sometimes we disregard adverse feedback and focus only on what we think. And then reality hits us (that we aren't as good as we thought). We should take external feedback. There is a nugget of truth there even if very unpalatable.

These are 2 extremes.

Wisdom is about knowing how much to focus on external feedback and how much on our self appraisal.