Sunday, September 8, 2013

Speed At Work

A friend of mine (LEH) is a teacher. While at school, she is usually busy teaching or correcting papers. One day she was correcting papers. Generally, she hardly looks up to see what is happening around her. It was late afternoon and teachers started to leave for home one after another. LEH continued her corrections unaware of what was happening around her. 

Around 6PM she looked up to see that she was alone in the room and saw there were birds chirping outside. She smiled to herself and went back to her work thinking she will finish her work in a few minutes and then leave. 

She finished and then turned to look outside the window. Her jaw dropped, she started shaking. It was pitch dark outside and eerie. No noise.

There was no one within 100 ft of her. She desperately wanted to run down from the staff room and away from the school to civilization where there was light and where there would be people.

She knew the principal would be working late. But she was too embarrassed to call and request the principal on the phone to come up to the staff room and escort her down. LEH was too proud. No, she would manage on her own.

But she had to close the windows and lock the room before leaving. The school where she works is rather strict in these matters. She tiptoed to the window and in 10 minutes bolted the windows (her hands were shaking terribly by now, she was imagining faces outside the window) and walked fast back to the door. She closed the door and in the dark found the right key and with a snap (of her teeth which were chattering rather loudly) locked the door and swiftly flew down the stairs to light and safety.

After a couple of days she recounted this incident to me. As per her request I am letting others know of this incident. Correcting homework is quite harmful to health.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

What Qualities Make A Good Teacher


This article contains the opinions of two award winning teachers. What each one says is different. I relate to what Peter Beidler says but I don't understand much what Sally Phillips says.

Beidler says that a teacher who models his teaching style on the characteristics valued by students will be a successful teacher. Here I wonder. Can someone "model" his style? Is the style not largely, if not fully, innate to a teacher? Perhaps if he rephrased what he said as "a teacher, whose teaching style is in sync with what students value, will be a successful teacher" I would be more comfortable.

Saturday, June 8, 2013

Birds Of Like Feathers Attract

I had earlier asked "Is there a rule that will determine when "Opposites attract" and when "Birds of the same feather flock together"?

A friend and I were trying to answer this question. There are two kinds of love that a person has. 
  1. A love for something, an attribute (I call this a strong attribute; say, honesty), that a person themselves espouses. The person may not tolerate any person who does not have that strong attribute. In cases of such attributes, the person will flock  together with people who share the same attributes. There are other attributes, weak ones, which a person likes (rock music, traveling) which may be personal preferences and in such cases the person may still like other people who do not share these attributes.
  2. A love for something, an attribute (say, tolerance, kindness) that a person needs and themselves don't have. Such a person will repel other people who are similar to themselves.
What does this tell us about ourselves? 
When we find that we cannot spend a lot of time with another person, either the other person:
  • doesn't share an attribute that we have or 
  • the other person doesn't complement us; they don't have that thing that we also lack.
This list of things that the other person, whom we dislike, lacks tells us about what we have (and need in the other person) and what we don't have (but expect the other person to have / provide it). The list has many attributes not all of which are equally important to us.

We do not give the same weight to all the attribute that we seek in another person. For example, in the movie Six days and Seven Nights, the man lived in a remote island and the woman was based in New York. The thought of being together was very difficult to digest initially. Subsequently they each figure that the other person had many other things which made their conflicting location preferences seem like a much smaller issue. (We do know what happened after they were together for 3 years. That is a very different story!)

Additional Reading:

Monday, December 10, 2012

Pros And Cons Of Buying New Vs Old Flat

A friend of mine was planning to buy a new flat. He gave me a link which the builder had given him that stated the cost of the flat and amenities like 2 covered parking, 24 hours power backup and what not. The cost of the flat was Rs1.5 crore (approx $268,000).

It was a 1100 sq ft apartment which had a UDS (Undivided share) of 567 sq ft. The land cost in this area is Rs 4 crore per ground (per 2400 sq ft). I worked out that the UDS cost for 567 sq ft is about Rs 93 lacs (about $166,000) and the premium he was paying (excess of market price excluding tax / registration charge over UDS price) was about Rs 57 lacs ($100,000). I treat the UDS price as a book value. The ratio of market price 1.5 crore / UDS 93 lacs is like the price to book value (P/BV) ratio.

I felt it was not a very good deal to pay one third of the total price as premium, it should be far lesser. Could he not look for a flat which had a higher ratio of UDS price to market price. My friend's contention was that the if he only bought the UDS, it is like buying land and it will not fetch rent. Having a construction and roof over the land made it livable. And this construction essentially becomes the premium that one paid. My friend and I both agreed that the annual rent of a residential property across India was about 3.5% of the current market value. This figure of 3.5% is from my own data based on what I have seen in Chennai. I am sure it applies to other Indian cities as well. 

My friend pointed out that the rent is 3.5% of the total current value of the property, UDS + premium. Very true.

But the point is, while the value of UDS keeps increasing (say @ 10% CAGR), the premium depreciates. All your battery and woodwork and A/c are depreciating assets. At the end of 20 years they may lose all their worth. My data shows that the premium probably gets a negative worth after about 25 or 30 years. 

If this is so, the premium that you pay fetches you 3.5% annually on a declining value. Bank deposit gets you more than 7% where the capital is protected. What sense does it make to pay a high premium value? Is it not a better idea to buy a real estate with very low premium, for example very old flats? The entire property value would fetch 3.5% annual return PLUS there is little / no depreciation. Two flats, one old and one new are compared and the detailed workings are in the sheet below.

Buying a flat with low premium (example: a very old flat), fetches you 1 to 1.5% more CAGR.




This is another article which talks about the same subject.

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Bad Venus

This post is on the characteristics of Venus.

Harshness:
It's not often that one comes across a horoscope or a person with very poor Venus. They are interesting people, with no aesthetic sense. They have no need for comfort. They repel people with their behavior. Their is nothing sweet about them. 

There is a Thirukkural (A set of 1330 old Tamil poems) poem which goes like this:

Iniya Ulvaatha innaatha kooral 
Kaniruppa KaaiKavarn dhattru.

Meaning: 
Using harsh words instead of sweet words is like eating a raw sour fruit when a ripe sweet one was available.

People with low Venus never heard this poem. They would use harsh words. It's not possible to detect any sweetness in them. High Venus people (especially those with low Mars) would love to be in the good books of everyone. 

People with high Saturn (and low Venus) would be very particular about time, disciplined and they are likely to be touchy, stick in the mud. People with high Venus (and low Saturn) are likely to be less conscientious about time and less disciplined.

Soft Skills:

Dale Carnegie is a good salesman and likely a high Venus person. He looks at soft ways to influence people and make friends. Low Venus people cannot make good salesmen because they do not have the soft skills to influence and make friends. They make friends before of their hard skills. Usually high Venus people cannot tolerate a high dosage of low Venus people (and vice versa). Ayn Rand wouldn't like Dale, high Venus people would.

Hatred for pain / stress and empathy for anyone in pain:
There are two ways of evaluating or choosing / voting:
  • Who has spent more effort or delivered more result (Low Venus way)
  • Who has more pain (High Venus way)
Do we choose the one who has given more or the who is crying / hurt more? In Tamil there is a saying, "azhuda pillaye pal kudikkum". The baby that cries gets the milk. The one in pain gets the rewards, not the one who has produced results or even the one that has put effort. Many people convey their pain as a currency to be exchanged for reward. For them, pain and unhappiness and feelings of not being well cannot be questioned. If I am not feeling well it is so. I cannot be asked if there is a reason for my not feeling well. I expect empathy (oh you poor dear and cuddle) and not a reprimand (WTF is wrong?). High Venus persons speak a different language. "You made me happy / unhappy so much". The currency used is different: happiness / peace. A high Venus person is nurturing. He hungers for sensual gratification. He wants to see, hear, smell beautiful things. And he values these very highly much more than tangible or "useful" things.

A high Venus person is focused on pain. He thinks 'I don't want pain / stress. I hate anything that gives pain.' He evaluates others largely in terms of 'did you create stress/ unhappiness' and not in business terms of monetary evaluation (what 
goods / services did you do for / give me and what did I give in return). A person with low Venus and high Mars doesn't care about stress. He takes a lot of stress and stresses others a lot too.

My observations on people I know well indicates that people with high Venus (and high desire) also are more likely to have migraine / headaches. High Venus people include not only people who have strong Venus but also those with average Venus and strong Mars in their horoscope. (Now here is an interesting bit of medical evidence: http://www.migrainesurvival.com/twelve-myths-about-migraine-in-women. Women - the gender that is associated with a stronger Venus, "Men are from Mars" - are more likely to have migraine.). A friend who I thought was high Venus (she is a perfectionist, hates to be asked to explain WHY, not comfortable making decision fast, has a sleeping problem) confirmed to me that she neither has headache / migraine nor does she "enjoy" complaining of pain.


A high Saturn and a bad Venus combination on the other hand becomes a loner. Such a person is incapable of providing empathy, so they don't extend their hands. Nor would they reach out even when they are completely aware that a person close to them has the resource to solve their problem. These people are problem (read: discomfort) lovers. No, they are not people who love to solve problems of discomfort, but they are people who don't mind discomfort. There is no tendency to solve the problem of lack of comfort. They have no empathy for people living in discomfort. There is a total absence of social behavior. This is not incorrect but it is totally strange. A thinking person may not bear to see injustice, a heart person cannot bear to see pain. In Mahabharata, on the 1st day of war the the Pandavas didn't want to fight. their heart wasn't in it. then bhagwan (God) came and explained to the Pandavas why it was right to fight their cousins, the Kauravas.  The head decision to fight was encouraged by god to overcome the heart decision to not fight.


Focus on Need vs due / objective reality:
A person who is very emotional doesn't rationalize too much. He wants his needs fulfilled. His (and others') needs and emotions are all that are relevant to him. "Is he entitled to what he is demanding" is not a question that would come to him, nor would he like that question if he were to be posed that question.

When feelings overcome us, we become blind, we cant see consequences. Imagine a typical man. He would want to have sex regardless of where or with whom. A woman would be more thoughtful in this regard (because of the consequences). She would want to make sure that it's the right person, that the conditions such as the place, the date, the time etc are right. If you asked a man who was raping a woman and asked him if what he was doing was right, what answer do you get from the man? That he NEEDS it, that he has to do it. Does the girl deserve it? Bah.

Here is an article on love. It is about how a person in love behaves. Objective evaluation is stopped and the object of love is accepted completely. And that is what, as per the article, keeps the love strong. When Venus takes over, rationality stops. Which planet stands for rationality? Mars, Saturn, Jupiter, Sun, Mercury, Moon? Most likely it is Mercury.


Creation:

Every creation happens because of Venus. A love for something creates a desire to possess, and something is encouraged to be created. The thing flourishes. Without this love / desire nothing can flourish. Without Venus, there is no family nor house nor profession. The best things (and often bad things as well) happen because of our love (for comfort) or desire. Without desire there is no achievement. High Venus take good care of things. Low Venus people do not.

Generosity: 

A person with high Venus is usually not capable of much generosity because of his intense love and desire for self preservation. People like Karna, BheeshmaEkalavyaSydney Carton would not have had high Venus, their personal desire must have been low. Each of them gave up precious things. Generosity increases with stronger Mars and Saturn and decreases with strong Venus. Mars gives the energy to achieve (and hence the propensity to be in a position to give), Saturn gives the tendency to reduce wants.

Holistic (zooming out) rather than zooming in:

Here is an example of good Venus: http://m.timesofindia.com/home/opinion/edit-page/Aamir-Khan-says-box-office-returns-not-a-good-measure-of-movies-worth/articleshow/17340855.cms. The tendency to look at things holistically is that of a high Venus. Such persons would hate a simple (or even complex) formula to describe anything. Life to them is not about formula. Low Venus makes a person exclude things and people from his life, those that are not deemed to be relevant. High Mars and / or Saturn, when associated with low Venus, accelerates this behavior. High Venus on the other hand is inclusive. It keeps people and thoughts and things within and associated. High Venus would consider everything pertinent and has social skills. It is good at networking. Low Venus people hence can make better specialists than high Venus people. Low Venus can solve problems faster than high Venus because of the former's ability to remove "unnecessary stuff" and focus on the pertinent. A high Venus and a high Saturn (low tendency to action) is a recipe for indecisiveness. Decision making is about choosing one option and discarding others. A low Venus and a high Mars (energy) jumps to conclusions having thought quickly of a formula and applied it rightly (often wrongly). Look at this quote. Is it not a high Venus person with a holistic view, carrying others with him?
A friend pointed out that her father, a high Venus person, is a specialist. 

Being Touchy:


Touchy people hate to listen to excuses.  Durvsakh Rishi had a very touchy nature plus a temper. 


High mars is capable of SHOWING high anger.. but what causes the anger? Anger is triggered by jealousy, competitiveness, touchiness etc.


Touchy people feel they deserve respect and when its not given, they feel very let down. if in addition, they also have a  high mars and a low Venus, they blow up.  High Saturn people pride themselves in consuming less, being austere and in return they expect an acknowledgment of their nature. If they don't get it, then they feel very negative. Touchy people cannot look at why someone could have behaved in an unacceptable way. When Durvasakh Rishi wasn't attended to by Shakuntala,  the Rishi took umbrage (Saturn's  behavior) and cursed her (Mars behavior). 



Rishi Durvasa was touchy, "How dare someone treat me like this?". If he didn't have a short temper, he would have sulked and OPPU (stand in front of a mirror and say OPPU and see how you look). Since he had a violent anger, he couldn't restrain himself. Now, did Shakuntala make a mistake in the way she attended to the Rishi? Yes kinda. Did she deserve to be cursed? Uh uh.


It's no wonder  then that highly touchy people are so difficult to get along with.


Now which planet causes a person to be touchy? Saturn or Moon?



Traits of Saturn: Low EQ, coldness, long negative memories.
Traits of Mars: High passion, possible harshness, anger, short negative memories


Conclusion:
I found two people whose horoscopes have poor Venus. One is Kiran Rao and one is Aishwarya Rai. Horoscopes are made from the date of birth including year and time and place of birth. These two being actors I would be skeptical about the accuracy of the DOB, especially the year. As per Wiki, both actors were born within a week of each other - around the 1st week of November, 1973. You can use software like Jagannath Hora or AstroSage to cast the horoscope. Now I don't know either of these two people. Those who know them well can confirm to me whether their nature shows a poor Venus.

If you are irritated with this post and thinking "people can't be slotted as good Venus, bad Venus etc" there is good news. You are likely to be a creator.


I will be updating this blog as and when I get new ideas.


Additional reading:

On Generosity:
http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/12/08/is-generosity-better-than-sex/?scp=1&sq=generosity%20and%20marriage&st=cse

http://generosityresearch.nd.edu/news/33630-want-to-be-more-generous-follow-your-gut-harvard-study-suggests/

Type A and Type B personality: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Type_A_and_Type_B_personality_theory


On Saturn: http://www.futurepointindia.com/articles/research-articles/saturn's-role-as-a-disciplinarian.aspx


On Humility, arrogance: http://www.swordofthespirit.net/bulwark/truehumilitychart.htm


On the power of negative thinking: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887324705104578147333270637790.html?mod=WSJ_MostPopular_India


Who is Lord Shiva? A person with high Saturn (Kachra, look at his dress, where he lives and in eternal trance), high Mars (look at his anger, third eye, he is the destroyer) and low Venus. Read: http://devdutt.com/articles/indian-mythology/the-third-eye.html

An introvert (high saturn) needs space. A high Mars dislikes space. Venus is driven by desire, Saturn is driven by purpose. Both purpose and desire are important but...


Saturn is tactical while Venus is strategic. Low mars high Venus gives faith, religiousness. Low Venus and high Mars gives passion without ambition, faith nor religiousness. High Mars and high Venus gives ambition.


Stubbornness is a trait both of Venus and Saturn and not of Mars. Mars stands for creativity.


Venus provides the goal. mars provides the energy to reach a goal. SATURN makes one hang on to the goal for a long time. meaning that the heart can also give up too soon if Saturn is not strong (Mohd. Ghazni who invaded India 17 times and lost each time) must have had a strong Saturn. But if Venus is not strong, one does not even have a goal. a strong mars gives the energy to achieve a goal but it doesn't give a goal. A strong sat makes you hang on but if if one doesn't have a goal (has poor Venus), one hangs on out of inertia and not out of choice. But if there is strong Venus you hang on because of faith, because of choice... ("one day things will be better, my next invasion will be successful"). Jupiter contributes by its optimism. What is the difference between Jupiter's optimism and Venus' faith then?


Moon, not Venus, stands for emotions. Venus responds to emotions. The presence of emotions is indicated/handled by Moon while the exhibition or response to emotions is handled by Mars, Venus and Saturn.

On all Planets: http://www.9graha.com/eng/articles/9planets.htm

What is Venus: 
What is Moon: 
What is Saturn: 

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