Too Little Sense And Too Much Maturity

Recently I came across a nurse who forgot to give me prior intimation that we were running out of diapers. She just informed me on the last day that there were no more diapers. 

I was aghast. What is this? I gave her a lecture about how important it was to inform me up front that something was going to get over so that I have time to procure it. And that she was not to intimate me after we ran out of something.

She was sweet. She kept nodding and accepted that it was her fault. She was smiling. There was no shock nor guilt in her face. 

I finally asked her how we would manage that day without diaper (we did have another kind of diaper but we needed the kind that we had run out of). 

She said it was ok, we will manage. I asked her how. What she meant was the patient will suffer / manage. 

Is this the meaning of grace under pressure with absolutely no sense?

Is this what we learn under the guise of grace and maturity - to be sweet, soft and clueless? Is this EQ? 

Most of the these girls don't have a clue about prevention of the problem in future once a problem has been identified. They also hate to tell the caretaker about the presence of an actual problem or the possibility of a problem. 

How can they do a good job if they hate to convey bad news? 

What is this kind of character?

Sacrifice / Qurbani

 http://www.womensweb.in/2016/06/burden-of-sacrifice-for-child/

Making a sacrifice and saying that one made a sacrifice are different. 

The former is a choice (which may seem like or be a sacrifice). It's content.

Saying that one made a sacrifice is to induce indebtedness in another. It's part of image creation.

Remote Debate With Biden

 Trump Objects to Commission’s Virtual Debate Plan

This brought up the question: what kind of person hates a virtual debate (or needs a face to face (FTF) meeting? 

A person whose primary skill is soft skill and the person who uses body language would hate an impersonal medium like a telephone or a virtual video meeting. In such a stage, Trump may not be able exert his influence on Biden. His interruptions while Biden is talking won't unnerve the latter as much. 

I wonder whether Trump would be able to articulate the real reason why he hates the idea off a virtual meeting.

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Saree Gymnastics - Back Flip

These two videos were trending.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CELrixnpdmm/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_mid=1F62F7CE-2DE9-48C9-A048-8F1B70142777

https://mobile.twitter.com/VarierSangitha/status/1271516375517810688 and https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10223624637428605&id=1371263854&refid=17&_ft_=mf_story_key.10223624637428605%3Atop_level_post_id.10223624637428605%3Atl_objid.10223624637428605%3Acontent_owner_id_new.1371263854%3Aoriginal_content_id.424282288955389%3Aoriginal_content_owner_id.100589847991303%3Athrowback_story_fbid.10223624637428605%3Apage_id.100589847991303%3Aphoto_id.1104320236691605%3Astory_location.4%3Aattached_story_attachment_style.video_inline%3Atds_flgs.3%3Aott.AX8Pk9UueM4G8zSs%3Athid.1371263854%3A306061129499414%3A2%3A0%3A1609487999%3A8167057056452535241&__tn__=%2AW-R#footer_action_list

Both the videos were amazing. I was wondering why I liked the second one (in yellow) more. 

Both the girls were talented. Matter of fact I thought that the guy with the girl in blue saree was even better than his partner in blue. 

The somersault in 1st video seemed too much "prepared" and audience oriented. And it was on a cushion. The risk of breaking any bone was rather limited. 

The yellow in the 2nd video was more authentic. And the girl did a reverse somersault and landed on her palms and then straightened up. And it was on a hard surface. She hardly looked at the camera not smiled. It was terrific. 

There was one more thing that caught my eye. The posture of the yellow girl, her steps, prior to the somersault was absolutely elegant.

Wonder who she is!!! 

She is apparently Mili Sarkar, Gunda informed me. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Misti-Mili-Sarkar/390394128084913 and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMW0VR7WMAg&app=desktop

This is Parul Arora, the one in blue: https://www.instagram.com/parul_cutearora/ and India.com: Viral Video: Girl Does a Cartwheel While Wearing a Skirt & High Heels, Internet Says 'Wow' | Watch.

Oh Oh, What Have I Created

Ability to deal successfully with various kinds of people is a very important attribute in a person.

Some people score 1/5 in that. This is their biggest weakness.

They don't have soft skills to deal with most people. 

They expect people to understand things logically, have integrity, put in effort. They do not like people who think their emotions and pain as a useful contribution or as justification for non performance or to be the raison d'etre for doing unimportant things.

God might look at such a person and think "oh oh, poor fellow. What have I created?"

Smart Expense Analysis

Recently I went to get my bike serviced at the authorized service center. The bike is more than 10 years old and I was thinking of exchanging it for a new one. I was told the servicing would cost Rs 2000 to Rs2500. I asked the service engineer how much I would get for my bike. The guy told me that my bike would fetch Rs5000 approximately. I thought. What sense did it make to spend Rs 2000+ on servicing my bike whose value was Rs 5000? Here was an interesting question. The cost of a new bike was Rs 60,000. And my bike was in good condition. If I got it serviced, I was sure I could use it for at least one more year easily without problem. Why incur cash outflow of Rs 60k and incur about Rs 5k depreciation for the current year (=(60-5)/12) assuming straight line depreciation and 12 years life and scrap value of Rs5k) for new bike when I could service it for Rs 2500 and no cash outflow. So I got it serviced. I will worry about a new bike next. Sometimes, what seems at face value may not be right!

Cementing A Relationship

Many women suggest or insist that rapists should have their private parts castrated. 

I agree if the rapist is like the Nirbhaya ones.

I have another suggestion. Females who falsely accuse a man of raping should have their private part cemented. Example would be the female alleged rape victim in the movie Section 375. My friends ARU and TKN agree with me.

J And P (As In MBTI)

Having seen and been with J and P type people I thought i would write my thoughts about them.

P type people are open, interested in new things, they have more width than depth in subjects. J type people are the opposite. When confronted with a new thing, a P (type person) would want to toy with it and it experience it forgetting that they have other commitments and that indulging in the new thing would conflict with the prior commitments. This need for immediate gratification is overwhelming. The stronger their energy levels, the greater the need.

The J usually would strive for depth and is committed to what is in their plate. They hate to take up new things on the fly, they are not open.

As a result, one cannot plan for things with a P because they often don't follow through with what they commit. One cannot plan with a J, on the other hand, because they often may not consider anything out of the beaten path.

As I mentioned earlier, a J is generally, not open to new stuff. When their energy levels go up, the SJ, as an exception, will consider a new S, but not N, experience. The high energy NJ would consider a new N, but not S, experience. 

Note:

1. In all the assertions, we should prefix the word "largely".
2. J is a person who is methodical, planned.
3. P is a person who is more ad-hoc
4. N is a person who has imagination.
5. S is a person who goes by memory and can't imagine.

Additional reading:

"This kind of approach — being openly meditative about the issue at hand, with a penchant for missing his own deadlines as he mulls his options — is in line with how Mr. Biden has made other big political choices throughout his career. Those who have worked with him over the years describe nonlinear decision-making processes with input from allies and family members, a barrage of questions from Mr. Biden, and a habit of extending deadlines in a way that leaves some Democrats anxious and annoyed, while others say it brings him to a well-considered decision, eventually.." From Why Joe Biden Keeps Missing His Own V.P. Deadlines

Putting A Diaper

Place an underpad. And then the diaper as shown below. The head will be to the left and feet to the right.

Placing the patient on the diaper is the difficult step. Put the pillow below the diaper to move the person to the left (or right) as needed.

 

The portion below the hips is folded up and the portion to the left is placed on top and stuck. See the two stickers below. 

Then the piece on the right is stuck on top of the left piece.

Self Destructive Behavior (SDB)

SDB is not just about cutting yourself up. Indulgence in extreme sports, indulgence in narcotics, indulgence in fatty and spicy food also constitute SDB, in the sense that what you crave isn't good for you.

Extreme generosity, like what Karna had, is also an example of SDB. When we are generous way beyond our means or when we love to take high amounts of stress which we know our body cannot manage we are indulging in SDB.

When we are addicted to behavioral patterns that would ultimately ruin us we can say that we have SDB.

When a very touchy person, who hates to be disrespected, acts as a simpleton and hence subconsciously encourages people to disrespect him - he is also indulging in a weird, inexplicable SDB behavior. SDB comes in various flavors.

How healthy or productive can our life be when half the time what we do is something that hurts US? It's like swimming upstream. 

Even sensible people indulge in such SDB. I guess our reward seeking system or hormones in some of us is so strong that we look at immediate thrill without looking at the long term hurt that we cause ourselves.

How do we stop this? How does it feel when a near and dear person indulges in such behaviour?