When Your Boyfriend Is Someone Else's Husband

A friend of mine sent me this:

FINAL EXAM PAPER for *LAW STUDENTS:*

Q. A Woman was driving a *Maruti* car. She mistakenly hit a *BMW* car.

The lady came out from her BMW, insulting the other lady for not being careful, asking her to repair her BMW

The Maruti car Woman called *her husband*, he replied -"I am very busy & please try fix up the Matter by urself"

The BMW lady called her *Boyfriend* and said *Sweetheart someone just hit the Birthday Gift you gave me,* I am so angry, please come over.."

Few minutes later her *Boyfriend arrived.* He is the *Husband* to the lady with the *Maruti* car!!!!

Discuss the possible *legal consequences* for all 3 parties.. (20 Marks).😉😜😂😂🤣🤣😬

My response:

Well as i see it, the man might have realised that his girl friend and his wife were the ones whose cars hit each other, since both of them called him about an accident and both would have told him about Maruti and BMW. Now if he was smart he would behave like he was only an acquaintance of his girl friend. His girl friend would also understand and treat the man accordingly. She would behave as though her boyfriend was held up and couldn't come.  She would be unhappy though that the man can't speak for her in this issue. The wife is the only person who truly won't know what her husband means to the other lady. But if she was truly feminine she would figure out and then realize he gifted a BMW to the other lady.  THEN the issues would start. The two women would end up swapping their cars.  Now if the wife was innocent, there really remains only a minor issue of 2 cars damaged for both of which the man might have to pay for. 

But i have read a variation of this story where each woman calls her boy friend to handle the accident. And... Each husband turns out to be the boy friend of the other.. How is that...

Additional reading:

https://newsstand.google.com/articles/CAIiECoUzqkHvrm9GFob4QKu5vcqGQgEKhAIACoHCAowzrL9CjDC7vQCMJPi1gU

Playing My Favorite Songs From USB Drive On Saregama Carvaan Radio

The radio I bought has an option to play from a USB drive. So I bought one and copied all my favorite songs. Only then I realized that the radio could play only audio songs. All my files were videos. 

So I searched for and downloaded a software (DVDvideomedia which converted video files into audio (mp3) files.  The software seemed to have a bug - it hung often. I fiddled with it and realized I could convert about 70-80 files at a time. Then I played these audio files from the USB drive and voila...Now my transistor can play my favorite songs.

Whom Do We Like? What Does It Say About Us

The other day I was talking to a friend (A) of mine who told me that her husband is picky about what people are really like while she herself likes people whom she can relate to and doesn't care how her friends are intrinsically or how her friends behave with others. She specifically pointed out to me that her husband was more interested in what people were basically like rather than how he got along with some X. You got the difference?

When I heard this I just acknowledged what I heard and didn't think too much then about what she said.

Until I spoke with another friend (B) of mine today. She has a brother-in-law (BIL). From what she, my friend B, had told me about her BIL and his wife (we will call her SIL), I had taken an intense dislike to her BIL and SIL years earlier  - remember, BIL and SIL were married to each other and their marriage was and, I assume still, is a good one.

My friend B herself didn't disapprove of them as much as I did. They lived in a joint family and I had never spoken to or met either of them (SIL, BIL). Subsequently family events turned out such that my friend was hardly on speaking terms with the couple. And today she told me that she finally spoke to her SIL. While they didn't kiss and make up, they both wished each other the best and acknowledged that they never will become bosom buddies. Well they aren't going to be talking much to each other either in the future.

Now, I disliked the SIL and BIL right from the beginning. While my friend B was ok with them earlier and now. But in in the interim when events turned out badly, she could hardly speak a word to either of them.

Now we come to the fun part.

Both my friends A and B seem to like people without regard to what they deeply are like. So long as people were OK with them that was enough. Deep evaluation of, and subsequent rejection of, people wasn't the way they operated.

Unlike A's husband and me. We disliked people based on what they were really like. We didn't have to wait for events which affected us personally to reject people.

What makes A and B behave one way and A's husband and me another? Perhaps it's a question of introverts and extroverts? Or Feelers and Thinkers? Or Intuitives and Sensitives? Or Judgers and Perceivers (as in MBTI)?

NEETliness Should Be Next To State Boardliness

Anitha, a poor Dalit girl from rural Tamil Nadu, committed suicide because she couldn't get a medical seat despite excellent marks in the state board plus two exams: http://www.news18.com/news/india/anitha-the-face-of-neet-protests-in-tamil-nadu-commits-suicide-1507155.html

One assumes that NEET is an appropriate exam for evaluating whether a candidate is fit to be admitted to a medical college as a student. And if a student who got 1176/1200 in the state board exams does very poorly and in the medical entrance exam and hence didn't get admission is it the state's fault? 

No matter how poor she was or that she was Dalit.. It is sad but if on the basis of this girl's death were we to remove NEET it would be even worse a scenario. 

What is the basis of the state board syllabus and education? 

That children should get 12 years education and should not be failed and that the syllabus and exams should help ensure minimum failure.

How is this system going to create the best engineers, lawyers and doctors of tomorrow? 

Having said this, i wonder now. What if Anitha was my daughter or my sister or my wife?  How would i feel? 

A student that gets 98% in board exams is unable to get a medical seat. She comes from a rural poor community. She has banked her entire future on her getting an MBBS seat and it is now denied her. 

How painful it must be when you have done all that you could and performed exceedingly well only to be thrown out based on some idiotic NEET?  If I never knew about NEET and never prepared for it and if my teachers never taught about or for NEET, it will never be relevant to me. Or to my sister or daughter. Am I at fault if I felt dejected. 

What if we followed Bhagvad Gita and put in our best efforts and never focused on the result only to find out later that a result focus is imperative in life and actually more important than putting in the best efforts. How would we feel? That's what happened to Anitha. The interesting thing is no matter which side won (NEET/CBSE or State Board) there would have been some Anitha who would have taken the drastic step. We have children IN TN state who had focused only on NEET and did not focus on State Board exams. 

What is the issue here?

The issue is the dual conflicting goal that we have. That the state board is foisted with or cherishes the goal of simple rote memory led education. 

The professional courses or industry requires something very different and perhaps more difficult.

Should we:

• Make NEET syllabus the lowest of all board syllabi?
• Should all state boards change their syllabus to those meeting IIT,  NEET etc requirements?
• Should TN colleges not allow other board students at all? 

Additional reading:

• http://www.financialexpress.com/opinion/how-tamil-nadu-education-system-has-turned-into-a-vicious-chain-of-apathy/844356/
• https://newsstand.google.com/articles/CAIiEMEHQO6Z7dU5BuARNHVQj-AqGQgEKhAIACoHCAowwqP5CjDypeECMI6VwgU