An approximate translation as requested by a friend:
There is a general belief that women are less strong than men. Hence the weapon that they use is harsh words. At some point, a man loses patience and ends up using physical violence (there do exist some women who retaliate). This helps women use the laws regarding marital violence. In these circumstances, the women who used the harsh words are not punished, not even cautioned. If we term the action of a man resorting to beating as violence, then the woman whose harsh words triggered the violence is also punishable.
In such court cases, children are used as armor. Children are used as weapons in order to blackmail the husband and his family. In order to avoid these, many husbands remain silent against their wives' verbal assault.
A child belongs to both parents. Is it fair that such women resort to false allegations against the men in court, take custody of the child and ask for maintenance of the child from the husband?
In India, the groom's family makes the bride's family miserable at the time of marriage. And the reverse happens at the time of divorce!
Women's nature and conditioning usually makes them very careful about leaving a trace of their actions. While a man's action (as in violence) has a legal repercussion and is morally incorrect, the woman's action would usually be such that it is not legally incorrect while it may be morally reprehensible. Men have a lot to learn from women.
As I had mentioned to a friend of mine a few years back, both men and women do similar things. In case of violence men, being stronger use the physical means. Women use non-physical means of aggression and trespassing which can be loosely termed as emotional violence.
I am Reminded of a thirukkural:
தீயினால் சுட்டபுண் உள்ளாறும் ஆறாதே
நாவினால் சுட்ட வடு.
Translation: The wound caused by fire may heal but that caused by words won't. - (More importantly words leave no trace and cannot be detected during autopsy)
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