This is a very nice article.
The author clearly is a thinker and not driven by as much by emotions.
What perhaps he doesn't appreciate is that understanding of events, including the accusation of rape, is driven by emotions in some people - the feelers. How such a feeler feels about the event is what determines what he thinks happened. In case of a rape, a feeling of extreme mental discomfort post coitus leads to the belief that rape happened. And the fact, that it was consensual during the act, could be found to be irrelevant in a feeler.
Conversely the feeling of well being post a rape leads to positive feelings towards the rapist (read https://vbala99.blogspot.com/2018/09/stockholm-syndrome.html).
Conversely the feeling of well being post a rape leads to positive feelings towards the rapist (read https://vbala99.blogspot.com/2018/09/stockholm-syndrome.html).
A very similar thing is echoed by a woman: "Rachel (a pseudonym) reeled off a list of unhappy encounters with would-be romantic partners: sex consented to out of a misguided sense of politeness, extreme acts requested and occasionally allowed, degrading insults as things unfolded — and regrets later. “It’s not like I was being forced into anything or that I feel unsafe, but it’s not … good. And I don’t like how I feel afterwards.” " from Consent is not enough. We need a new sexual ethic.. The title of the article is leading. From Washington Post.
Asking a feeler to look only at facts unemotionally is like asking someone like the author of this blog post to avoid facts and logic and just feel about the event or feel for the person who just joined the #metoo.
The expectation is fine and dandy. But is it sensible?
Addional reading:
- https://vbala99.blogspot.com/2018/09/christene-blasey-ford-and-brett.html
- https://scroll.in/article/897796/wheres-the-proof-and-7-other-frequently-asked-questions-about-metoo-and-their-answers
- https://www.vox.com/platform/amp/2018/4/5/17157240/me-too-movement-sexual-harassment-aziz-ansari-accusation
- https://www.campussafetymagazine.com/university/how-to-disprove-or-prove-sexual-assault-without-physical-evidence/
- https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/i-was-sexually-assaulted-heres-why-i-dont-remember-many-of-the-details/2018/09/21/8ce0088c-bdab-11e8-8792-78719177250f_story.html
- When We Consent, We Shouldn’t Feel Terrible After, Right?
- https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2017/10/sexual-assault-plot-device-twist-liar-una/544340/
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