Socially Correct But Insensitive

Socially correct but insensitive behavior is what differentiates a survivor from a non survivor.

When you mention a tough problem you are facing, a friend might express that it must be very difficult for you and then gracefully switch to topic to the issues she has in life - her teenage son cut himself while shaving.

That's socially correct behavior expressing empathy. And little else in the nature of useful contribution.

And there are other friends who might drop everything to be with you but then they may but have learned the socially appropriate things to say. These people don't survive as well as the first set. And this is unfortunate. Just as unfortunate as good nature is considered more important than good character.

It's the continuous "feminization" that we are undergoing that has resulted in social nature triumphing character.