Parent Of Enneagram Type 5 Or INTJ

I was thinking today. When we are toddlers, our parents, older siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles would have played with us, fed us, clothed us and generally made us feel cared for and good.

What if suchs caring didn't happen? What if it did happen when we were a baby but we felt the care to be inadequate? What recourse would we, as a baby, have had? This is what was running in my mind, also based on what I had read about what happens when the primary caregiver is absent or is inadequate.

Maybe the child tends not to reach out to people, as that has not helped the baby in the past. The baby tends to become an introvert, perhaps. If the baby find itself to be unable to figure anything out, it thinks the best way is to do what the mom/parent says and not to think for itself. The baby then becomes a J (as in MBTI). Maybe the baby gets scared of the things in its life and tends to switch things out and lives in an abstract world - becomes an N (as in MBTI).

Maybe this is the reason why Enneageam 5 type 5 people (typically INTJ) are supposed to have had a neglected childhood.

Of course I do know of atleast one Ennea type 5, who was not neglected as a child. I can't explain how that child turned out to be be a 5.

This leads to be the next question - as a parent do we know when our child feels neglected and may turn out to be be an Ennea type 5 or an I or N or J?

Of course it's quite possible and likely that a particular child's nature has nothing to do with parenting.

Additional Reading:
http://vbala99.blogspot.com/2016/01/enneagram-and-mbti-comparison.html