Monday, September 1, 2025

Can't You Take A Few More Steps

Recently a friend of mine asked his sister whether she couldn't take a few steps to help him out. It happens that she had done plenty for him in the past.


I was reminded of a scene in the old Tamil movie Sumai Thangi where L Vijayalakshmi tells her brother Gemini Ganesan, the hero of the movie, that he has done so much for her in the past. When I thought she would then consider repaying him, she requests her brother to do her one more favor.


This idea of asking one more favor after many or taking a few more steps after many is something i haven't been able to digest. It comes easily to some people, especially to people who are generally very empathetic!

Children Want It. (I don't)

I was watching a reel today. It shows a mom telling dad that it's mother's day and that the children, two young boys, want to present an expensive necklace to the mother. The father is convinced by everyone, much to his irritation, that he has to go to the mall to purchase the necklace that the boys want to present to their mom on mother's day. Of course the mother is doing it all for the boys, not for herself. 



This reminded me of a discussion i had with a female friend who was a Hindi teacher. She told me one day that that particular year was very hard on her then seven year old daughter and she had been telling her husband to take them all to a nice hill station, Kodaikanal, for the summer. 


I told her it was expensive to go to and stay in Kodaikanal and asked her if it was really necessary. She said it was absolutely. The child really needed a break. 

I suggested that her husband could take her daughter to Kodaikanal and she could stay home instead, considering that it was the daughter who badly needed a break and that she herself, just like the mother in the reel above, wasn't keen about it for herself.


Guess what my friend's reaction was to my suggestion that husband and child could go without her. "A ha ha ha, why should I not go?"


Whether it's a necklace or Kodaikanal or maintenance for the child in their custody, they can make a good case for "it's not for me at all, it's for..." Now the final question over which i have lost all my hair: At what age do women learn to project their own needs on somone else?

Thursday, May 29, 2025

Being In Someone's Shoes

I am back here after a long break. Many things happened in those years. I have changed a little i guess in those years. Maybe I will write about events that happened then.

Now let's come to today's post!

A friend of mine lost her family, consisting of her parents and a brother, one by one. She was the only earning member in her family. Some acquaintance of hers remarked to her (my friend's) employer that my friend had gone through a very difficult time and managed it pretty well. 


To this the boss responded that anyone in my friend's position could and would have done the same thing. And hence there was nothing remarkable in what my friend did. 


Probably true what the boss lady said. Anyone who went through the same circumstances as my friend perhaps would have done the same thing. And maybe what my friend did wasn't remarkable. 


Just as anyone in Sachin Tendulkar's shoes would have achieved what he did. Anyone in Mahatma Gandhi's shoes would have done what he did. Anyone in Bill Gates's or Jeff Bezos' shoes would have done exactly what they did 

No big deal. 


I have a question here for the boss. What is a big deal? 

Sunday, September 29, 2024

Whom Do We Trust

I came across this: APNews being the trusted source of news for half the world. 


And there is Truth Social which also is read and trusted by half of America, the Republicans. Truth Social is Trump's own Twitter like platform.

Are APNews and Truth Social at the same level and alike then? Imagine if the CEO of AP News and Trump were both invited to be felicitated for adhering to the highest standards of truth! 

I am reminded of a comedy scene in a Tamil movie where a beggar, waiting for some money from a vegetable shop owner, finds himself standing next to a police constable who has come to the shop for hafta ("wet his beak" in Mafia terms) - both of them being shooed away by the shop keeper who is busy attending to his paying customers!

Having half the world read your news or listen to you is hardly a great thing. Truth Social does that too. I wish APNews would try to differentiate itself from Truth social.

Tuesday, October 24, 2023

Trump's Election Interference

I can think anything that may not be true. And I can say untruths because I have a right to freedom of speech.


Based on that thought and words of mine I can allege anything. And incite others with my words to take any action, even illegal ones.


If people claim what I said was wrong and that my actions of incitement to violence was wrong, I can claim that I acted on advice of my counsel.


I do not recognise the concept of right or wrong. A man's purpose is to win. Losing is not an option.


I am not accountable for any words or actions of mine. I will continue to fight until I get what I want.


Friday, October 20, 2023

Math Puzzle - Instagram Series

The question was shared on Instagram by the handle @maths.puzzles__. The puzzle states, "Only 2% of students solved this question. 5+3+2= 151022, 9+2+4= 183652, 8+6+3= 482466, 5+4+5= 202541 Then 7+2+5 =?"

Thursday, May 18, 2023

Guess The Direction Of The Train

This photo was taken in a train sleeper compartment in the morning. The train was going from Moradabad to Lucknow. Was the train moving to the left or to the right? Explain.


Map showing Moradabad and Lucknow (both circled in red pen). Regular Map pointing North



Beautiful Thought and Beautiful Emotion

I was thinking of the difference between a beautiful emotion and a beautiful thought.


This is a Beautiful jathi someone choreographed. Look how it is.


Now this is an Excel sheet i choreographed.



See how beautiful it is.

What is the learning here? 

An emotion is exceptional if it moves your heart. 

A thought is exceptional if it serves a purpose, solves a problem. The sheet above may be an Excel jathi but not a useful one.

An expression of emotion can be beautiful. A thought is never beautiful. That's not the purpose of a thought.

If a thought seems beautiful, it was actually an emotion.

A person strong in emotions can create beauty and elegance. A person strong in thought cannot.


Saturday, April 1, 2023

Evaluating A Dance


These are videos of classical dances. Both are youngsters, informally dressed. 

And I watched each video twice: once with audio on and once without audio. 

I think this is essential. 

We should evaluate a singer without looking at what she is wearing, what she is emoting, how she looks etc. This is in stark contrast to the opinion espoused by the author here. https://www.theguardian.com/music/2022/apr/19/fashion-fabrics-and-fishtails-why-we-need-to-talk-about-what-female-classical-performers-wear#comment-155980075


In the same way while evaluating a dance as shown in the videos at the top, it is essential that the person be wearing ordinary dress and that we switch off the audio and experience the dance. So our response is only for the quality of the dance. And not distorted by a good audio or by good dress or good stage effects.


Look at these two dances with and without audio and see how they are.

Tuesday, January 31, 2023

Solving Wordle

 

The 2nd word choice is interesting. The last letter after N can be Y, K, D, T, O (RHYNO). So I chose DORKY.





The solution might have K at the end. Possible words are BREAK, BLEAK, FREAK, WREAK. So I chose FRILL.


This again is another nice one.





L, P, H are letters that can follow the starting S. Hence ALEPH. Sure enough it was solved in 3 attempts!


The most interesting step in this was the 4th. At the end of the 3rd step I had E yellow in 2 steps. I didn't know whether the solution had two Es or one. The 4th guess made the solution within grasp.




Additional reading

Sunday, January 29, 2023

Adani - Dubious Or No?

Man Is Defined By Questions

I used to think that man is defined by what he has understood in life, by what answers he has arrived at to questions.

Today I realised something else. That man is defined more by the questions that drive him than by the answers he has arrived at.

The answers decide what he does transactionally. The questions he has decide what he ponders about and spends his quest on.

Does every man spend time thinking about questions other than whether his car will start in the morning and whether it's ok to add eggs in tomato fry? I don't know. This post is about those that do.

If Filter In Google Sheets Isn't Working

 Sometimes the filter doesn't work in Google sheets in Android. On clicking the inverted triangle icon filter, nothing is displayed. I don't know why it happens. 


Here is a simple workaround. 


Take a copy of file before starting

  • Create new sheet in the original file
  • Create working filter 
  • Copy few rows and confirm working filter
  • Change references to new sheet and confirm vlookup in referencing sheet is working
  • Copy rest of rows to new sheet and modify references in referencing sheet to new sheet
  • Delete old sheet where filter is not working
  • Rename new sheet
  • Confirm everything ok

Wednesday, January 25, 2023

Soon Their Marriage Unraveled, Emotional Expression

 They Poured Their Savings Into Homes That Were Never Built


This is an article about how thousands of Chinese made down payments for their houses but they never got possession of their apartments. 



This post isn't about real estate issues in China. It's about communication, Sophisticated communication. Read the last line in the blocked text in the image above which is taken from the same NY Times article mentioned at the top. 

"Even their marriage unraveled" - I fail to see how that's relevant to the real estate issue being discussed. Bringing very poignant things not directly germane to the main issue seems kosher when we are emotional. And when we want to create a bigger impact on our audience. 

Some of us wouldn't know that this is allowed and wouldn't know how to bring up marriage problems in an article on real estate issues. But those that do know have an edge over those who don't!

Can a husband tell his wife "the breakfast yesterday was burnt and my presentation to the customer yesterday went bust"?
I am not sure. 

Tuesday, January 17, 2023

Wordle And Dumb Charades

Dumb Charades (DS) and wordle are both popular games.


Both are guessing games. In DS you have to guess the name of something (a movie typically) and in wordle, a 5 letter word. The former is limited by time (so many minutes allowed to come up with the right answer) and latter by number of attempts (6).

The solution is DS can consist of multiple words (as in the name of a movie "Maid in Manhattan")) while the solution in wordle is always a single 5 letter word.

In both games the other party (another team) responds to your guesses in terms of how close or far you are from the answer. The response in DS is a little subjective while in wordle the response is more structured in terms of yellows and greens. DS also has a GREEN, YELLOW, GREY kinda response system.

Though wordle is typically a solo game it can very well be a two player game, though with only one people on each team. DS usually has more than 1 player on each side. 


In both games the player converges to a solution, from having no clue about it initially to making large jumps towards the solution with each guess. 


In both games the ingenuity of the guesses is a major factor. 


Both games are intellectual (despite wordle needing a paper and a pencil or a web page) unlike video games.


Both are quite addictive!


Additional reading 

https://vbala99.blogspot.com/2022/12/my-personal-worldle-copy.html


Monday, December 12, 2022

My Personal Worldle Copy






I created my personal copy of wordle. Basically it's the same as the original one except that I can play multiple times in a day. And it's a  single user version. I have a streak that's 100+ days long.


It started off with me trying to figure out the best starting word. I wasn't happy with ADIEU, LEAST etc. Knowing that A or E is yellow doesn't really help me. A GREEN helps a lot more than a YELLOW. 

Apparently a paper authored by researchers at MIT says that the best starting word is SALET. My own favourite was SLATE. Though both have the same set of 5 letters one of them could be better than tha other since the letter order could change a yellow to a green or vice versa. 

And I was more into trying to find out whether the solution has letters like F, L, C, P etc which are less frequent. Knowing that the solution has these rarer words is a lot of help even if they are less likely to be there in the solution than knowing that the solution has E, S, A etc.

Ideally one should be able to solve a wordle in 3 steps or guesses. Solving in 1 or even 2 steps is sheer luck. With my starting words I still take 4 guesses, so it's not a great way!.


Coming to my personal wordle, Cell F15 throws up a random number which I use and enter in cell F2 to pick out a 5 letter word (either from past solutions or from my master list of 5 letter words depending on whether the value in cell G2 is 1 or 2).


Column R is where I enter my guesses.  Column O tells me whether the guess is ok or Bad. "Bad" is when a wrong letter is used or a letter is placed in a wrong position. For example, if I know that F isn't there in the solution and I use F in a subsequent step then the rule engine would display "Bad". If everything is fine, OK is displayed. There are a bunch of standard rules built into the rule engine. I handle issues with multiple occurrences of a letter. 


I then decide whether to change the guess or go ahead with the current guess. I do the latter by typing Y in column Q. Once I type Y, my guess is processed and then color coded in columns H-L as well as in the "keyboard" below. The keyboard is display only. You can't use it to type unlike in the NYT website.


Cells BE3-BI8 tell me, for each letter in the guess, how many other words can be formed having all other letters the same. For example in LUNCH, for L I enumerate how many words such as BUNCH, HUNCH exist in the master list.

In cells BK3-BO8, I show how often a letter in the guess comes in that position. For example, L occurs 15% times in the 1st position among all words having L.

Once the guess is entered, I set all the GREEN, YELLOW and GREY letters in cells BE10 to BI14. Cell R13 tells me how many words match these conditions. Smaller the number, closer I am to the solution!. Cell R13 gives the result set in % form.

If I am guessing a word outside of my spreadsheet (for example, i am playing in a different site) and I know some GREEN, YELLOW, GREY data for the word, I enter those letters in cells BK11-BO11 (GREEN here). The yellow letters and grey letters are entered in cells BK16, BL16, respectively. I also set the value in cell in BJ10 to 2 to inform my spreadsheet that GREEN, YELLOW, GREY data is not to be determined based on internal solution but that these days are entered manually. Cells Q13, R13 give me an indication of the % and number of words in my master list that match the criteria.

The icing on the cake are the cells BM16, BN16. If I enter a value 1 in BM16, cell BN16 will display the 1st word in the internal dictionary which exactly matches the GREEN, YELLOW GREY letters entered (if playing on an external site) or determined (if playing within the spreadsheet with the spreadsheet choosing a random word). If I enter 2 in BM16, the next cell will display the 2nd word that matches the criteria. 

 


Cell BO18 is a check number for internal purpose. 

Since the solution is picked at random and since there are hundreds of words in the master list to pick from I really don't know which word is the solution in the current game. This ensures fun!


In the final version, i incorporated the ability to arrive at the guesses and ultimately the solution by just entering the GYG details of each guess. A bit of a triumph! 


Thursday, December 8, 2022

Interesting Attachments

 

Photo : Moamen Messi, National Geographic.


On the Superstition Mountains, Apache Junction, AZ, 

A few days each year, for just a few minutes, the sun projects a larger-than-life shadow of a cougar chasing its prey 

Timing is critical. This phenomenon only happens when the sun sets at just the right latitude on the western horizon. The cougar only appears during the third week of March and September.








Ready made sari


















கல்லிடைகுறிச்சி என்பது திருநெல்வேலியில் இருந்து சுமார் 40 கிலோமீட்டர் தொலைவில் அமைந்துள்ளது. பொதுவாக ஊர் பெயர்களில் குறிச்சி ,ஊர் ,குடி ,பாடி ,சேரி , கோடு,பட்டினம் ,பாக்கம் ,காவு ,காடு ,கா என்றெல்லாம் ஊர்களுக்குப் பொதுப் பெயர் இட்டு வழங்கினர் .நிலங்களுக்கு ஏற்ற வகையில் இப்பெயர்கள் அமைத்தனர். இவை இடுகுறிச் சிறப்புப் பெயர்களாக அமைந்தன,  .இதில் கல்லிடைகுறிச்சி என்பது கல் + இடை + குறிச்சி என்பதை குறிக்கும், இதன் அர்த்தம் மலைகளின் நடுவே அமைந்த ஊர் என்பதாகும். இந்த ஊரின் பின்னே இருக்கும் மலை தொடரே பாண்டிய, சேர மன்னர்களின் எல்லை கோடாக இருந்தது எனலாம்.
    அப்பளம், பப்படம், பப்பட், அப்பளா என பல பெயர்களில் அழைக்கப்படுகிற இந்த மொறுமொறு அயிட்டம், இந்திய உணவில் பெரும் பங்கு வகிக்கிறது. திருவிழா மற்றும் விசேஷங்களில் காய்கறிகளும் உளுந்தில் செய்த பப்படமும் இடம்பெற்றிருந்ததாக சங்க இலக்கியங்களில் கூறப்படுகிறது.      
    ‘அப்பளித்துருட்டுபவது’ என்பதே அப்பளமானது என்று தேவநேயபாவாணர் விளக்கம் அளிக்கிறார். அப்பளித்தல் என்றால் சமனாகத் தேய்த்தல் என்று பொருள். அப்பளமானது உளுந்து, அரிசி, மரவள்ளிக்கிழங்கு போன்ற மூலப்பொருட்களிலும் மிளகு, பச்சை மிளகாய், சீரகம், பெருங்காயம் போன்ற உப பொருட்களிலும் தயாராகிறது. வாயில் ஒட்டும் வட இந்திய அப்பளங்கள் உணவகங்களில் பல்வேறு விதமாக பரிமாறப்படுகின்றன. பொருட்காட்சிகளின் பிரமாண்ட பிகானீர்  டெல்லி அப்பளத்துக்கு மயங்காதவர் யார்? இப்படிப்பட்ட சுவைப் புகழ் கொண்ட ராஜ அப்பளங்களில் மிகச் சிறந்தவை தயாராவது திருநெல்வேலி மாவட்டத்திலுள்ள கல்லிடைக்குறிச்சியில்தான்! அப்பளம் இந்தியாவில் கண்டுபிடிக்கப்பட்ட உணவே. மழைக்காலத்தில் காய்கறிகள் கிடைக்காது என்பதால் ஏதேனும் சில உணவுகளை சேகரித்து வைக்கும் வழக்கில் வந்தவையே அப்பளம், வடாம், வற்றல் போன்றவை. அந்தக் காலத்தில் அப்பளம் இடுவது என்பது பெரிய கலையாகவே இருந்து இருக்கிறது. 
      அப்பளத்தால் லட்சக்கணக்கான பெண்கள் பயன்பெறுகின்றனர் என்பதற்கு இந்த அப்பளமே சாட்சி. தேவன் ‘அப்பளக் கச்சேரி’ கதையில், அப்பளம் இடுவது வெறும் வேலையாக மட்டுமே அல்லாமல், அதில் பெண்களின் வாழ்க்கையே அடங்கியிருந்தது என்பதை நகைச்சுவையாகக் கூறியிருப்பார். இந்திய அப்பளம் உலகெங்கும் பரவி பப்பட், ஃப்ளாட் பிரெட், இண்டியன் பிரெட் என்ற பெயர்களில் புழக்கத்தில் இருக்கிறது. கல்யாணம் என்றால் இலையில் முதலிடம் பிடிக்கும் அப்பளம் கடவுளுக்கு படைப்பதிலும் இடம் பெறுகிறது. குருவாயூர் கிருஷ்ணர் கோயிலில் ‘அன்னபிரசன்னம்’ எனப்படும் குழந்தைகளுக்குச் சோறு ஊட்டுதலில் அப்பளமும் உண்டு.

என்னதான் 5 நட்சத்திர ஹோட்டலில் விருந்தாக தினம் உண்டாலும், ரசத்துக்கும் சுட்ட அப்பளத்துக்கும் ஒரு கட்டத்தில் நம் நாக்கு ஏங்குவது, அப்பளம் நம் வாழ்வில் எத்தனை முக்கிய இடத்தை பிடித்திருக்கிறது என உணர்த்தும். அப்பளம் பிடிக்காத குழந்தை என்று சுட்டிக் காட்டுவதும் கடினம். ‘மொறுமொறுவென பொரித்த அப்பளம் விருந்துக்கு என்றால், நெருப்பில் சுட்ட அப்பளம் மருந்துக்கு... மீதமான அப்பளம் குழம்புக்கு’ என்று அதிலும் பலவகை பயன்பாட்டை வைத்திருக்கிறோம். பொரித்த அப்பளத்தை பாயசத்தில் கலந்து சாப்பிட ஒரு ரசிகர் படையே இருக்கிறது. சாவியின் ‘வாஷிங்டனில் திருமணம்’ நாவலில் ஒரு வெளிநாட்டுத் தம்பதி அப்பள மகிமையை வியந்து போகும் விதம் குறித்து எழுதியிருப்பார்.

பொதுவாகவே வெயில் சுட்டெரிக்கும் ஊர்தான் நம்முடையது என்றாலும், மற்ற காலங்களைவிட பங்குனி, சித்திரையில் இடப்படும் அப்பளங்களுக்கு தனி ருசி உண்டு. தமிழகம் வழக்கம் போல, ஒவ்வொரு உணவுப்பொருளுக்கும் ஒரு சிறப்பான இடத்தை - ஊரை வைத்திருப்பது போல அப்பளத்துக்கும் தனியாக ஓர் ஊரையே வைத்திருக்கிறது. கல்லிடைக்குறிச்சி அப்பளம் தமிழகம் மட்டும் இன்றி உலகம் முழுதும் விற்பனையாகிறது.

‘‘கல்லிடைக்குறிச்சி அப்பளம் ருசிக்க முக்கிய காரணம் தாமிரபரணி ஆற்றுத் தண்ணீரே. உளுந்தில் செய்யப்படும் சாதாரண அப்பளம் மட்டுமல்ல... இரண்டு உளுந்து அப்பளங்களை ஒன்றாக சேர்த்துச் செய்யப்படும் டபுள் அப்பளம், உளுந்து அப்பளம், மிளகு அப்பளம், கார அப்பளம், அரிசி அப்பளம், மரவள்ளிக்கிழங்கு அப்பளம், ரிப்பன் வடகம், குச்சி வடகம், தேன்குழல் வடகம், ஓமபோடி வடகம், வெங்காய வடகம், இலை வடகம், அப்பள சிப்ஸ் என்று பல வகைகள் இருக்கிறது. 
     தமிழகத்தின் தென்பகுதியில் திருநெல்வேலி மாவட்டத்தில் , தென்பொதிகையின் அடிவாரத்தில் உள்ள ஒரு அழகான கிராமம் கல்லிடைக்குறிச்சி. அது வற்றாத ஜீவ நதி தாமிரபரணியின் செல்லக் குழந்தை . பசுமையான வயல் வெளிகளும், தோட்டங்களும் , தென்னந் தோப்புகளுமானச் செழிப்பான பூமி. பதினெட்டு அக்ரஹாரங்கள். அந்தக் காலத்தில் , அதுதான் 1950களில்  அக்ரஹாரம் முழுவதும் பிராமணர்களே குடியிருந்தார்கள். தவிர செட்டிப் பிள்ளைமார் தெரு, முதலிமார் தெரு, பள்ளிவாசல் தெரு,  மாதாகோவில் தெரு என்று அனைத்து மக்களும் அன்போடு இன்றும் வாழ்கின்ற ஊர். ஒவ்வொரு தெருவுக்கும் ஒரு கோவிலும் உண்டு.  ஸ்ரீ ஆதிவராஹப் பெருமாள் கோவில்தான் மிகப் பழமையானதும் , குபேரனால் பிரதிஷ்டை செய்யப்பட்டதுமான புகழ் மிக்க ஒன்று. தவிர டுண்டிவினயகர், ஸ்ரீ ராமச்சந்திர மூர்த்தி, ஸ்ரீ சிவகாமி அம்பாள் சமேத ஸ்ரீ சிதம்பரேஸ்வரர், ஸ்ரீ முருகன், ஸ்ரீ வாழ உகந்த அம்மன், ஸ்ரீ வடக்கு பார்த்த செல்வி, ஸ்ரீ அகஸ்தியர், ஸ்ரீ குமாரன், ஸ்ரீ அறம்வளர்த்த நாயகி, ஸ்ரீ தர்மசாஸ்தா, ஸ்ரீ காமாக்ஷி, ஸ்ரீ வடிவாம்பிகை உடனுறை ஸ்ரீ மானேந்தியப்பர் , ஸ்ரீ காந்தாரி அம்மன் இவை தவிர சிறு சிறு பிள்ளையார் கோவில்களும் உண்டு. சித்திரை மாத ஸ்ரீ ஆதிவராகர் தேரோட்டம் மிகப் பிரபலம்.
     சரித்திர ஆராச்சியாளர் நீலகண்ட சாஸ்திரி, சிறுகதை, நாவல் என்று முத்திரை பதித்த “ஆதவன்”, பாரதிக்கு தொண்டு செய்துவரும் பாரதி காவலர் கு. ராமமூர்த்தி, திரைபடத் துறையில் குறிப்பாக “டப்பிங்” தொழிலில் சிறந்து விளங்கி , இராமாயணம், கிருஷ்ணா போன்ற சின்னத்திரை நீண்ட தொடர்கள் மூலம் அனைவருக்கும் தெரிந்த கவிமாமணி கு. தேவநாராயணன் போன்ற இலக்கிய வாதிகளையும் இந்த உலகத்துக்குத் தந்து மகிழ்தது இவ்வூர்.
       டைரக்டர் சங்கர் எடுத்த ஜென்டில்மேன் படம் முழுக்க,முழுக்க இங்கு தான் எடுக்கப்பட்டது.


Pongal celebrations in Mylapore, 2023, Jan 15.


At the gym



Gayle on fire. 12 ball 50




Fake video thru AI



So unfortunate that this true








Time or fate can do strange things









How sounds from Vishnu, Lalitha sahasranamam affect us




The future of digital world, electronics. Very nice



Naattu naattu with Laurel and Hardy




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